Lasting memories of how I felt on the day my exam results came through the door at age 16. Can you remember that feeling too? I FAILED a couple of my exams first time, it felt like my world had crashed down around my ears. All my dreams of becoming a nurse and then a midwife had gone in that second of seeing the results. The look on people’s faces when they realized I had FAILED, I felt at that time I had let everyone down including myself. Anybody had that feeling? The thing is it was my self esteem that took a battering, I believed that I wasn’t very good and would fail things that I did first time. This was confirmed again when I FAILED my driving test, it wasn’t a surprise as I believed I would fail and when I did, my brain kept confirming what I was thinking all along, I was going to fail. My self confidence was dropping quite quickly now. I failed more exams, same looks of disappointment, my belief about myself was growing, I was a FAILURE. I eventually did pass my driving test, I did qualify as a nurse and then as a Midwife but I still always had the worry of FAILING. I even had one of my midwifery lecturers confirming this belief as she also continued to tell me that I would fail my Midwifery exams. Did she sense my belief of failure too? There was no evidence as I absolutely loved midwifery and passed my assessments with no problem at all. She even gave me the date for the retake before the results came out! It was a long 6 weeks to say the least. Have you had similar experiences? I had an absolute belief that I was not good enough and people around me confirmed it.
Why did I let other people influence what my capabilities were? I did pass and qualify as a midwife and have cared for mothers and babies for over 28 years across the UK. Over the years I have worked with so many women, midwifery colleagues and women in my care where FAILURE is a constant label that women give to themselves. The Fear of Failure of not being able to be a good mother, not having a normal birth, the guilt if the baby doesn't sleep for 12 hours in the first week, the pressures of feeling unable to live up to expectations. This is contributing to the rise in mental health issues amongst women around the world today.
However, there is GOOD news, if you are one of the millions of women feeling the same way I did. I am here to tell you that myself and Darrell in My Arena Coaching have tried and tested proven strategies to support you to rewire your brain through our mastermind program, to finally get off the hamster wheel of your life and be courageous. We invite you to step into the arena and start believing that you have the power to live a life that you desire and deserve where the word Failure does not even exist.
With our work over the last 4 years Darrell and I have been working in Quality Improvement and studying Improvement science in a healthcare setting. The focus was to get results by taking small steps, measuring progress and Learning what works and what doesn’t... IT IS NOT FAILURE. After years of success in our work, we believe and are passionate about supporting you on your journey. The approach comes from an idea to break a BIG goal into small parts and then improve on each of these areas. This will increase your ability to have huge success when all of these small improvements work together towards your BIG goal. We want you to have a certain feeling of happiness, when you look back in a year and you can clearly see how you have changed your own life towards a life of fulfilment and happiness. We believe that happiness is progress.
Just to get you going and in preparation for the beginning of 2019, I have outlined the Top 3 habits to practice when it comes to rewiring your brain. You can take action right now.
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